Why Don’t You Have a Boyfriend?/I Think You’re Fabulous

On numerous occasions, this question has been posed to me.

Do these people think I know the answer to this question? Perhaps they might consider that, if I knew the answer, I could/would “fix the problem” and have the boyfriend.

With what intent is this question asked? It’s not exactly a rhetorical question and yet, it seems unlikely for them to expect me to actually have an answer. Perhaps it is some sort of ill stated flattery; their opinion of me is great enough that they would expect some unidentified man to see the oh-so-fabulous me and to become my boyfriend. If this is the case, I suggest that they might just outright tell me how fabulous I am. It’s not as if I have not had men who thought me wonderful. This, however, does not mean that such opinions are always mutual/will automatically lead to a relationship of any kind.

Honestly, asking me why I don’t have a boyfriend feels like an attack on me and my life. It makes me think that you (the person asking) don’t feel that my life – - in its current, boyfriendless status, is equal to the life that I would be living if I was part of a couple.

I beg of you, simply tell your single friends (or tell yourself!) that they are fabulous.